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Feb 07, 10 9:00pm
Him:
Give me a sip of your cappuccino.
Me:
Too late. [takes last sip]
Him:
Love means you're supposed to want to give me the last sip.
Me:
Maybe we'll get there one day.
Him:
HA! I doubt you'll *ever* give me the last sip.
Me:
Yeah. I'm like a wild animal when it comes to food.
Feb 07, 10 7:55pm
The female’s strategy is a compromise - a trade-off between on the one hand the greater risk of mating with a bad male if she mates too quickly, and on the other hand the time cost of delay.
File under: “the truth, ain’t this”
Feb 07, 10 7:53pm

Why You Can’t Hurry Love

Scientists have developed a mathematical model of the mating game to help explain why courtship is often protracted. The study, by researchers at UCL (University College London), University of Warwick and LSE (London School of Economics and Political Science), shows that extended courtship enables a male to signal his suitability to a female and enables the female to screen out the male if he is unsuitable as a mate.

The research, published this month in the Journal of Theoretical Biology, uses game theory to analyse how males and females behave strategically towards each other in the mating game. The mathematical model considers a male and a female in a courtship encounter of unspecified duration, with the game ending when one or other party quits or the female accepts the male as a mate. The model assumes that the male is either a ”good” or a ”bad” type from the female’s point of view, according to his condition or willingness to care for the young after mating. The female gets a positive payoff from mating if the male is a ”good” male but a negative payoff if he is ”bad”, so it is in her interest to gain information about the male’s type with the aim of avoiding mating with a “bad” male. In contrast, a male gets a positive payoff from mating with any female, though his payoff is higher if he is “good” than if he is “bad”.

The study looks for evolutionarily stable equilibrium behaviours, in which females are doing as well as they can against male behaviour and males are doing as well as they can against female behaviour. It shows that extended courtship can take place, with a good male being willing to court for longer than a bad male and the female delaying mating. In this way the duration of a male’s courtship effort carries information about his type. By delaying mating, the female is able to make some use of this information to achieve a degree of screening. Because bad males have a greater tendency to quit the courtship game early, as time goes on and the male has not quit it becomes increasingly probable that he is a “good” male.

Professor Robert Seymour, UCL Mathematics, says: “Courtship in a number of animal species occurs over an extended period of time. Human courtship, for example, can involve a sequence of dinners, theatre trips and other outings lasting months or even years. One partner - often the male - may pay the greater part of the financial cost, but to both sexes there is a significant cost of time which could be spent on other productive activities. Why don’t people and other animals speed things up to reduce these costs? The answer seems to be that longer courtship is a way for the female to acquire information about the male.

“By delaying mating, the female is able to reduce the chance that she will mate with a bad male. A male’s willingness to court for a long time is a signal that he is likely to be a good male. Long courtship is a price paid for increasing the chance that mating, if it occurs, will be a harmonious match which benefits both sexes. This may help to explain the commonly held belief that a woman is best advised not to sleep with a man on a first date.”

Dr Peter Sozou, Warwick Medical School and LSE Centre for Philosophy of Natural and Social Science, says: “From a female’s point of view, males are not all equal. A female would like to mate with a good male, but cannot tell a male’s type from his appearance alone. The strategic problem the female faces is how to screen out bad males, and this is where long courtship comes into play. A male is assumed to always want to mate with a female, but a good male is more willing to pay the cost of a long courtship in order to claim the prize of mating. This leads to an outcome in which the female is not willing to mate immediately, but instead requires the male to wait for an indeterminate time before she agrees to mate with him. During this time, the male may give up on courting the female.

“Bad males give up at some random time if the female has not by then mated with them, but good males are more persistent and do not give up. The female’s strategy is a compromise - a trade-off between on the one hand the greater risk of mating with a bad male if she mates too quickly, and on the other hand the time cost of delay. Under this compromise there remains some risk that she will mate with the wrong type of male. She cannot eliminate this risk completely unless she decides never to mate.”

See, ladies?  “Good males are more persistent and do not give up.”

This, I’ve found, is indeed the case.

Feb 07, 10 7:47pm
Wait … are bustiers (or bralets) in now?  Because if that’s the case, I am so down with that trend.
Although the woman above does look a little cracked out.  But I don’t think we should foist the blame upon her Vena Cava wardrobe for that.

Wait … are bustiers (or bralets) in now?  Because if that’s the case, I am so down with that trend.

Although the woman above does look a little cracked out.  But I don’t think we should foist the blame upon her Vena Cava wardrobe for that.

Feb 06, 10 7:09pm
Me:
Oh my god. I can't believe how badly I did on that math test. I want to shrivel up and die.
Friend:
Julia, you're one of the smartest people I know.
Me:
But you only hang out with dumb people!
Friend:
I know, but still.
Feb 06, 10 4:47pm
Guess who was there to watch me box this morning?  Oh yes, the Lillydog herself.
(And before you send me emails, I should mention that it’s a small private club which happens to be pet friendly. The guy who runs it brings his own dog … and I cannot tell you how hysterical it is to see this jacked dude with tattoos carrying a tiny little pup.  So. Freaking. Funny.)

Guess who was there to watch me box this morning?  Oh yes, the Lillydog herself.

(And before you send me emails, I should mention that it’s a small private club which happens to be pet friendly. The guy who runs it brings his own dog … and I cannot tell you how hysterical it is to see this jacked dude with tattoos carrying a tiny little pup.  So. Freaking. Funny.)

Feb 06, 10 4:44pm
Absolute truth? I really didn’t want to wake up this morning for boxing, especially since I went to bed at 3 am.  But peer pressure (and a non-negotiable training appointment) are highly effective methods of persuasion.
So glad I went, though - it felt great to get a work out done early.  That *never* happens with me.
Then I ate six handfuls of peanut M&Ms after lunch and ruined the whole thing.  Sigh.

Absolute truth? I really didn’t want to wake up this morning for boxing, especially since I went to bed at 3 am.  But peer pressure (and a non-negotiable training appointment) are highly effective methods of persuasion.

So glad I went, though - it felt great to get a work out done early.  That *never* happens with me.

Then I ate six handfuls of peanut M&Ms after lunch and ruined the whole thing.  Sigh.

Feb 06, 10 4:40pm
Kicking the crap out of some poor plastic schlub this morning!

Kicking the crap out of some poor plastic schlub this morning!

Feb 06, 10 4:06pm
The “Before” Pic … Interviewing Ryan for NBC’s New York NonStop, about the new extension line.
This guy seriously needs his own reality show.

The “Before” Pic … Interviewing Ryan for NBC’s New York NonStop, about the new extension line.

This guy seriously needs his own reality show.

Feb 06, 10 4:02pm
Getting my shampoo on at Ryan’s salon.

Getting my shampoo on at Ryan’s salon.

Feb 06, 10 3:45pm
Remember when I said I was going to try a brand new kind of extension?
Voila!! Here I am yesterday with the Platinum Seamless extensions I tried for a NBC New York NonStop segment, courtesy of the talented Ryan Darius over at his eponymous salon.  Um … They’re sort of amazing.  (Although they need to be trimmed a bit, but that will happen Monday before I leave for LA)
My initial reaction?

It took THIRTY MINUTES, instead of the normal four hours.
I can barely feel them, instead of the painful weight.
They match my hair color PERFECTLY, instead of … uh … not.

Verdict (so far, at least): I’m a huge, huge, huge fan.
++++++
Disclosure: I paid for the Platinum Seamless extensions, although Ryan generously provided me his time and formidable skill.

Remember when I said I was going to try a brand new kind of extension?

Voila!! Here I am yesterday with the Platinum Seamless extensions I tried for a NBC New York NonStop segment, courtesy of the talented Ryan Darius over at his eponymous salon.  Um … They’re sort of amazing.  (Although they need to be trimmed a bit, but that will happen Monday before I leave for LA)

My initial reaction?

  • It took THIRTY MINUTES, instead of the normal four hours.
  • I can barely feel them, instead of the painful weight.
  • They match my hair color PERFECTLY, instead of … uh … not.

Verdict (so far, at least): I’m a huge, huge, huge fan.

++++++

Disclosure: I paid for the Platinum Seamless extensions, although Ryan generously provided me his time and formidable skill.

Feb 05, 10 8:53pm
Head to Toe at the Outsider’s Art Fair:
- Black Headband: from I have no idea where.  I found it in my pink headband box.  Yes, of course I have pink box devoted entirely to headbands.- Dress: Meghan’s Clothing Swap!!!- Black sweater tights: Bloomingdale’s- Shoes: YSL from Bergdorf’s

Head to Toe at the Outsider’s Art Fair:

- Black Headband: from I have no idea where.  I found it in my pink headband box.  Yes, of course I have pink box devoted entirely to headbands.
- Dress: Meghan’s Clothing Swap!!!
- Black sweater tights: Bloomingdale’s
- Shoes: YSL from Bergdorf’s

Feb 05, 10 8:13pm
Culture Strike’s “Inside the Outsider’s Art Fair” segment to come.
Yeah, yeah, I know you’re all waiting with bated breath.  ;)

Culture Strike’s “Inside the Outsider’s Art Fair” segment to come.

Yeah, yeah, I know you’re all waiting with bated breath.  ;)

Feb 05, 10 8:09pm
Where I filmed my third segment tonight!

Where I filmed my third segment tonight!